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Healing Your Relationship With Yourself
End Inner Conflict by Developing A Harmonious Inner Family
Joel’s book has been published! Order or borrow a copy now.
About the Book
Most people who come into my office do not understand that the problems that they present to me originate with inner conflict. They believe sincerely (but mistakenly) their problems are the result of external causes. If they persevere in their healing work, they soon come to realize that healing is an “inside” job.
Most of us live with too much fear. This fear is manifested in a dizzying array of personal difficulties and problems, emotional states such as depression or anxiety, relationship breakdowns and unwanted physical symptoms. This book is dedicated to the process of healing the fear within you. It is based upon three beliefs: i) How you experience everything in life is not determined by any external agents or circumstances. It is determined by the state of consciousness you are in, ii) Your “normal” state of consciousness is fear-based and survival-oriented, which I call the aggressive/defensive ego. This consciousness perpetuates an extremely dark vision of reality and hardship for you and others.; and iii) There are other states of consciousness within you – a child consciousness and a spiritual consciousness. If you can access them they will offer you an entirely different way of interpreting and experiencing your reality.
By healing your ego (fear) consciousness and developing a harmonious and supportive “Inner Family”, you can experience and bring to others a far greater and more enduring peace, health and love.
“Both David and Claudette had become acquainted with the workings of their own aggressive/defensive ego (fear) consciousnesses. They had watched as its cherished set of judgments, opinions, and beliefs lay in tatters… With the memory of the love they had once shared, they could begin the process of bringing their broken, yet considerably more authentic selves to each other to be known and healed. Each had been wrong about a great many things. They were now choosing to give themselves over to a qualitatively deeper and more enduring love than any they had ever known.” (from Chapter III)
About the Author
Joel Brass holds a Bachelor of Arts (Honors) degree from the University of Winnipeg and a Masters of Applied Science degree from the University of Waterloo. He has been a psychotherapist in private practice and seminar leader for thirty years, and, periodically, a host of his own radio and television talk shows. He is a member of the British Columbia Association of Registered Clinical Counsellors. He maintains a private counselling practice and lives in White Rock, B.C. with his wife Marim and two sons, Adam and Simon.
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- $29.51 per book in Canada ($22.95 + $1.15 GST + $5.41 shipping & handling)
- $34.65 per book to the USA ($22.95 + $1.15 GST + $10.55 shipping & handling)
Contact Joel by email or phone (604-732-9091) if you have any questions about ordering.
Reviews
Joel, I’ve just read your book (found it at Banyen) and I’d like to tell you that it is THE manual for managing fear/the-ego-who-wants-to-run-the-show/nasty-inner-critic. So much is written about this topic by so many people, but your style of comprehensive clarity and easily digestible detail is invaluable.
I’ve been learning the hard way (through crises) about consciousness, and I’ve done an exponential amount of reading/research from perhaps a million or so sources (!) in the last few years to pull myself up from the bottom (no substance stuff, though). So, by the time I found your book, I had come to many of the conclusions and was attempting to integrate them into my life. Your writing pulled it all together, and you have also included many indispensable insights which I had not encountered in my zillion hours of reading. My jaw was continually dropping as I was reading it, since the ‘program’ was just so well-laid-out and well-spelled-out for those who were up for the task. Lucky are those who find this book by chance or by hunch, and use it proactively. In other words, wish you’d written it about 3 years ago! 😉
But I’m grateful for the 360-degree guidance from now on. (It’s also good to know that you’re there on South Granville should I decide/need to talk further.) I hope that you have already been receiving this type of feedback ~ I’m certain you can expect much of it in the future. As much as you can do to market the book is in so many people’s best interest, besides your own…Sherry
If you’re really ready to give up what’s not working for you, this is the book for you. If you’re willing to draw on your self-scrutiny, courage, discipline and humility to create what you want, to tranform the places you’ve been struggling or stuck, this is the book for you. If you just want useful information, that’s O.K. too. But if you’re really ready for a change, really ready to step outside your comfort zone, you can get a great deal of help from this book. This book is terrific! It is full of rich wisdom, heart, great coaching and attention to detail.Leonard Shaw, M.S.W. A.C.S.W., Seattle, Washington, 43 years in the practise of psychotherapy
Congratulations on your book’s completion. What a feat! … I miss the work I did with you…Since then I’ve worked with life coaches, mentors, yoga teachers, gurus, saints, sinners, you name it – but nothing has reached the emotional depths and shone as much light into the hidden recesses of my being than working with your Inner Family model. I still use it, perhaps not as often as I could, but the connections are alive and well. Thank you for seeing me through some dark times.Lee Mason, [rincipal, Lome Eco-artisan Carpentry, Salt Spring Island, B.C.
Joel has done a good job with a difficult subject; highlighting the necessity for individual responsibility and hard work. He brilliantly defines the essential alliance between spiritual principles and sound self-healing techniques. His model and stories take the reader to the CORE of themselves, their debilitating inner conflicts and fears and their potential for emotional healing and reconciliation.Dr. Joe Goodman Psychologist, 35 years Private Practice, Managing Partner, Yonge Lawrence Center for Counselling and Consulting, Toronto, Ontario
I read Joel Brass’ book Healing Your Relationship With Yourself in 3 days and loved every word. It truly is BRILLIANT. He describes my arc through life and my healing journey exactly. I am once again reminded that there is no substitute for time and space to heal and grow, and I am recommitted to healing my relationship with myself and others after reading this extraordinary book. You can be sure I will be recommending it to everyone I know, and equally sure that only the brave-of-heart will want to travel there. I’m sure glad I did.Jill Walker, administrative support assistant, Langley, B.C.
This book is a remarkable tool for anyone who is on the journey of self discovery and personal growth. Joel’s work not only creates an understanding of why we behave as we do, but provides the tools one needs to bring about personal change. Somehow he makes this journey a joyous adventure rather than a frightening struggle.”Mary Gillanders, retired teacher, Abbotsford, B.C.
I just wanted to thank you so much for giving the gift of knowledge and allowing me the opportunity to read your book with our book club. We are only at chapter 2 but the awareness I feel I have gained from those two chapters is enormous; I thought I knew about ego but I see that it was very limited. I am really, really looking forward to working with my inner family and healing them. I was given up for adoption and not placed with a family until I was 10 months old & I can see now that there was lots of pain created by this and I am willing to now look at it because of your book. I can’t thank you enough for writing this book and for allowing me to read it. Thank you again for this beautiful gift.Marnie, Revenue Supervisor Transportation Industry, Vancouver, B.C.
There are thousands upon thousands of books, cds and dvds dealing with self-help, psychology and wellness available in the marketplace. The fact that you are reading this review suggests that you are looking for a friendly and effective way to understand and work on one’s life challenges. So why should this excellent volume be a strong consideration of your attention and time? Brass’s description of our inner conflicts makes sense. Brass lays out with his theory why we both see and feel our stresses. This is not “dry” material because Brass like a good detective novel writer reveals clues, motives and actions that unfortunately can cause great unhappiness and discomfort. Brass is quite sensitive to our suffering as he shares some of his own personal struggles. You can tell that Brass has been hard at work trying to find methods that assist all of us in dealing with our pressures. Brass does not settle for the quick and superficial cure [that is for therapists and writers of lesser ability] instead his desire is to enable us to recognize a journey we must all undertake to decrease and even perhaps to end the conflict within ourselves. Brass is very clear as to how we can go about this. I almost felt he was sitting in the room with me – guiding me in this part of the book. Further, Brass points out where and why we will stumble at times along the way and even need to take a break. I never felt that the therapy direction was judgemental or criticized one for stumbling at times. And Brass’s kindness, understanding and assurances are a traveling companion along the process. As a professional social worker for over 30 years I highly recommend this excellent title for both the professional and lay person. It’s a positive approach because it respects the reader as a person with legitimate struggles that require legitimate soloutions. Brass strikes “Gold” with Healing Your Relationship with Yourself.Harold Sosnowicz, M.S.W., Winnipeg, Manitoba
