The Work of Love:
Examining our Egos; Operation in Matters of Love

This weekend seminar shows us:

• Our fear based, survival orientated patterns of behavior in relationships.
• How and why we sabotage our love relationships.
• How to have more loving relationships in our lives.

The very same ego consciousness that helped us to survive the emotional pain of our childhood and adolescence comes back to haunt and sabotage us in our most significant relationships in the present.  If the experience of loving and being loved is associated in the unconscious mind with the experience of trauma, violation, conflict or abandonment, nothing will be scarier than "love" approaching.  The ego consciousness will mobilize to protect the inner family from perceived enemies like trust, closeness, commitment, vulnerability and honesty, not to mention men or women.  The extent to which the adult consciousness has become identified with the ego in this lifetime is the extent to which love in all intimate, committed, monogamous, long-term, primary relationships will become problematic, dysfunctional and even destructive.

In the weekend seminar Relationships: The Work of Love we examine ourselves as the perpetrators of pain.  We examine the myriad  flight and fight responses that we have employed to keep from our hearts and souls the very people we say we want to love, the very people who have committed the "crime" of loving us.  This most certainly could include our love interest but we will also examine our relationship with our father, mother, sister, brother, son, daughter and past loves to discover the ego patterns that have run us and our relationships into the ground.  We begin to move from being baffled, righteous, or victimized by our love lives  to taking 100% responsibility for the state that our most significant relationships are in.  All of our dynamics and imposed barriers to real intimacy, committed love and monogamy are faced.

Only then can we discover and examine the components of a healthy, loving and mutually  beneficial relationship.  Only then can we discover that with courage, vulnerability, honesty and humility, we can begin to experiment with laying down our survival-oriented, fear based ego patterns and return to our connection with the child and spiritual consciousness within as an entirely new base from which to interact with the people of our loves.